Emotions are just emotions. Emotions can range from anger, to sadness, to joy, to love. When we were children we expressed our emotions freely without any judgement from ourselves or others. However when a lot of us became adults, we developed the habit of suppressing how we really feel because we are concerned or worried about what other people may think of us. We have got into the habit of pleasing other people. Many of us live our lives based on the approval, acceptance, praise and popularity of other. Imagine being in a place of completely and fully loving ourselves and giving ourselves the freedom to fully feel how we are feeling without any fear or judgement from ourselves or others.
The interesting thing about emotions is that when we choose to not express or feel or deny or judge an emotion, we block the rest of the other emotions being experienced. For example when we are experiencing anxiety in a situation and we judge and resist the anxiety, we in turn disempower ourselves from moving on and transforming that emotion. A more empowering perspective is to love and embrace and feel the emotion we are experiencing, especially negative emotions such as fear, anger, sadness and resentment. It is only by truly loving the emotion and just seeing it as an experience, that we allow ourselves to transform the so-called “negative” experience.
An emotion is just an emotion. It is neither good nor bad. Right nor wrong. It is just an emotion. Emotions come and go. Emotions come from the underlying beliefs we hold about a particular situation. For example if you lost your job in the morning and you responded with anger, frustration, fear and unhappiness, there is a high probability that you could have beliefs such as “this is bad” “I won’t get another job” I am my job” “a job is hard to come by”. However if you choose to hold beliefs such as “this is good” “I will get another job” “I am not my job”, you would respond with happiness, peace, joy and love.
We are conditioned from our families, society, friends, work, that it is not okay to feel whatever we are feeling. For example I know of a guy who was depressed for several years and he only told a couple of people in his life about it. Interestingly enough when he choose to be open and authentic about where he was at in his life, the depression lifted. Depression is essentially about being unhappy or judging our unhappiness. Many people have judgements about people being depressed or experiencing a mental illness. Who made up the rule that everybody should be happy. It really is okay to be unhappy. It is only when we learn to truly love and embrace our unhappiness, that we can then move and transform it. It really is okay to be unhappy. The unhappiness you are experiencing is the truth in the moment of who you are. Don’t judge it. Don’t compare it. Don’t resist it. Don’t fight it. Don’t try to be happy. Don’t try to be happy when you are not. Ultimately you are the person creating the unhappiness because you are holding the beliefs about the thing, person or situation, when you learn as to why you are holding those beliefs and how they are serving you, then you have the opportunity to move from that experience and transform the situation.
When we start identifying with our emotions, we the start becoming attached to them and as a result we can create more disharmony and unhappiness. Love what is. If you are angry, say I am experiencing anger right now however I am not this anger. It is okay to feel angry right now….see what happens…