Are you allowing somebody or something outside yourself to control whether you are happy or not? We are each responsible for our happiness however at times it seems, that it can be something outside of ourselves that can be making us unhappy. The truth is we can always choose to be happy no matter what is happening to us on the external.
I can see in my own life how I respond to different situations and people with unhappiness because the situation is not the way I would like it to be or the people are not the way I would like them to be. I would love to embrace the belief that I can be happy no matter what is happening in my life.
By blaming things and people outside of ourselves for how we are feeling, we are ultimately allowing these things to control our happiness. We always have a choice to be happy in every moment. At times I forget and I go into the mode of blaming my boss, my job, the people around me, the weather because I am unhappy.
So how can we start taking ownership of our happiness. The first step is awareness. Being aware that it is our thoughts about the situation or the person which are creating the feelings of unhappiness in ourselves. At times we start believing the story going on in our heads that this is the truth. However 99.99% of truth is relative. It is our thoughts which are creating the story. Imagine creating a story which is creating a life of happiness.
If you had a choice would you choose to believe a story which is the truth or which is a lie?
If you had a choice would you choose to believe a story which made you happy or unhappy?
If you had a choice would you choose to believe story which is the truth or or which made you happy?
While I agree that we alone, own our actions, I have to ask the question, are you really controlling your emotions? Can you really choose to be happy? At least initially? Wouldn’t it be more accurate to say that we have total control over how we react to our feelings?
I do believe that one can control their emotions over time. But it takes a lot of time and A LOT of work to get there. Simply being aware that we do have the power to decide the extent to which we are affected by the goings on around us isn’t enough. We allow things to impact us the way that we do because we CARE. We care about our job. We care about our partner. We care about our family. Caring is what gives others the ability to cause us unhappiness.
And I think it’s a beautiful thing. I am not suggesting, in any fashion, that caring about someone or something is to be a detriment to us. I think it comes down to simply realizing what you do and do not have control over. In any situation that involves another person, you have, at best, 50% control over the outcome. When you care about someone, and they do something that hurts you, of course you’re going to be unhappy. I think the key to moving past that to a point where you can be happy again is owning what you can and accepting the rest.
Like I said, I do agree with the majority of your post and it fits with a lot of my own philosophies. Good post.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblog. Namaste. TW