They say the more we resist something, the more it persists! I believe this is true. When we choose to complain or blame a situation, place, person or thing, we are not truly accepting it for what it is. We are in effect allowing this “thing” outside ourselves to control how we feel.
Acceptance for me is being in a state of allowing and not resisting where I am now. At times in my life, this has been easier said than done. When things didn’t go the way that I would have liked them to go or the way I believed they should have, I would sometimes have the tendency to not accept the situation.
Many times it is our own belief or judgement about the situation or the person in that moment, which prevents us from accepting it. We may have beliefs such as “It shouldn’t be this way” “This is bad” or “This shouldn’t be happening to me now”. In my life when I was in a place that I didn’t want to be, I discovered that it was my beliefs about being in that place that were creating the disease and disharmony within me. For example at the moment I am looking for work, however at times I find it hard to accept that this is my reality. I can see that it is my beliefs around not having a job that are causing me not to accept the situation, rather than the act of looking for work itself .
When we choose not to accept a certain person for the way they are or a particular situation for what it is, we are essentially not allowing the space for change to happen. We are allowing it to control us, control how we feel and what we think. When we don’t accept something that happens to us, and we choose to be in a place of denying or resisting it, it becomes much harder for us to move on from it and create a change. When we choose to be in an unaccepting state of mind, we can waste our lives away in a place of self-pity, blaming and complaining and in effect never really moving on and taking complete responsibility for our lives.
There is an amazing power in accepting what is. I found when I was on the Camino de Santiago, I experienced a lot of acceptance of; who I am, the people who I met and the journey that I needed to take. From this state of acceptance I experienced peace within myself, a letting go and an acceptance that I am where I am. Accepting that I am doing the best I could in the situation. In accepting ourselves and our situation, no matter how bad it is, we can receive tremendous power and strength to move on and take proactive steps to change it, if we so choose.
When we choose to completely accept something, it does not mean we should settle for whatever happens to us. It is beneficial to be aware of the difference between settling for something and accepting one’s reality. In the first instance we allow things to simply happen to us, while in the latter we are taking responsibility for our actions and making the conscious decision to move on, make a change or simply be happy with what we have.
We can invite feeling acceptance into our lives by;
* Becoming aware of when we are complaining and blaming people, things or situations.
* Becoming aware of our beliefs which can be preventing us from accepting the situation.
* Asking ourselves how it is serving us not to have acceptance in our current situation?
* Focusing on and being grateful for all the many blessings we have in our lives.
* Practicing letting go in the moment and saying whatever will be, will be.
As always I welcome any feedback or words of wisdom you may have.
Namaste.
~ TW
Holly Troy said:
the perfect thing for me to read this morning – thank you
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome. Have a great day. Namaste. ~ TW
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Sloan said:
Reblogged this on Taming The Invisible Dragon™ and commented:
A great post from The Truth Warrior. Learning the art of acceptance is an essential element of learning to Trust that, when we allow it, our lives are always unfolding in ways that will contribute to our overall well-being and happiness, long term.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblog Sloan 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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Sloan said:
Thanks for all that you do!
http://tamingtheinvisibledragon.com/2012/12/19/affirmation-appreciation-awards/
Blessings,
Sloan
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks so much Sloan for this kind and encouraging award. I really appreciate it. Namaste. ~ TW
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smarterwiser said:
So true! I have found in the last several days that the practice of letting go and letting things be the way they were meant to be is one of the most difficult things I have ever done.
A fellow blogger once quoted Mariylyn Monroe.. “sometimes you have to let the good things go in order for great things to happen” and he was right.
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The Truth Warrior said:
I love that quote 🙂 Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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terry1954 said:
You are my angel! You have no idea how badly I needed to read your blog this morning, but God did, and he led me to the answers I was searching for. bless you
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome 🙂 I am glad that you were guided to read it. Namaste. ~ TW
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eM said:
I’ve heard a nearly surrender-like saying for acceptance–it is what it is.
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The Truth Warrior said:
I like it 🙂 Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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hoping4astory said:
That is so true!
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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momentswithmillie said:
Excellent
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks very much 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks so much 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thank you 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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ZenSoapbox said:
Yes! “…the more we resist something, the more it persists!” This is the story of my life. And the solution to the problem: “Practicing letting go in the moment and saying whatever will be, will be.” This is my new mantra! Tahnk you!
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ZenSoapbox said:
*Thank* AAAGGH!
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are welcome. Namaste. ~ TW
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You are very welcome. Namaste. ~ TW
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Ncardoso said:
Accepting the things we, sometimes, can’t understand it is truly the first step of understanding it. Our response are more improtant than our reaction to things that happens to us. Love it. Thank you.
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The Truth Warrior said:
It is so the first step to understanding. Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
It is so the first step to understanding. Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
It truly is the first step. Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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athenabrady.co.uk said:
Another great post, at the moment I am struggling with acceptance of a situation, I think I may have reached my line the sand. The consqence of this is I must move on but it is so hard to do that sometimes.
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The Truth Warrior said:
I wish you the best in your journey Athena. Namaste. ~ TW
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JasmineKyleSings said:
Wow I really got a lot from this post. Things can’t change if you don’t allow it to be what it is and accept things as they are and choose to let go and look to your self! Terrific! Thank you! I’m going to let it go.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for sharing you honesty! I wish you the best in letting it go. Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for sharing your honesty! I wish you the best in letting it go. Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for sharing your honesty! I wish you the very best in letting it go. Namaste. ~ TW
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Lexia Cherry - Life Coaching said:
Excellent…….this is so much up in my life. Even if I get to accept ‘what is’….the trick for me is making the choices to respond rather than react! Or, get the lesson, that the reaction is showing me that I haven’t accepted!!! I only just ‘got’ that. The power of writing shows up again! Thanks for the opportunity.
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are welcome. Glad that you enjoyed the post. Namaste. ~ TW
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beverley said:
When it is a good thing happening in our life it is easy to accept. However when it is a bad thing it is so much harder. Sometimes we get to the acceptance part before those around us do even if we are all coming from the same place we are not not all on the same journey.
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The Truth Warrior said:
So true. Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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The Truth Warrior said:
So very true. Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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Dan said:
Hello, TW, St. Francis once prayed, “Lord, help me to change the things I can, accept the things I cannot, and give me the wisdom to know the difference.” You’ve given us a good action plan to achieve that very thing! Thanks!
Dan
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hi Dan. Glad you enjoyed it!! Namaste. ~ TW
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May I Be... said:
Reblogged this on May I find peace in this uncertain world..
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblog. I wish you much peace and happiness on your journey. Namaste. ~ TW
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wisejourney said:
I totally agree and hold great store by the same beliefs. Not doing as great a job at it today as I would like but ever aware of trying to fully accept where I find myself by choice today. Thank you
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hi. Thanks for sharing. I wish you the best on your journey. Namaste. ~ TW
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Life and Shifting Seasons said:
Thank you for speaking from the heart & sharing. The perfect thing for me to read this morning. I look forward to reading your posts! Keep up the blessed work!!
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome!! Thanks for sharing. Namaste.~ TW
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Mahogany said:
Hello Good Afternoon,
I have nominated you for the Liebster Award and the Blog of the Year Award, woohoo!
http://www.crazyfunsexyguide.com/2012/12/07/nominated-for-liebster-blog-of-the-year/
Have an excellent weekend.
xo
Mahogany
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thank you so much for your kind nomination for these beautiful and amazing awards. I really appreciate it. Namaste. ~ TW
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swatik6 said:
I like the usage of rhyming words like “resist” and “persist” which goes hand-in-hand.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks 🙂 Namaste. ~ TW
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SimplySimplisticComplexities said:
Hey nominated you for 2012 blog award =) http://ayaime.wordpress.com/
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thank you so much for your kind nomination for this award. I really appreciate it. Namaste. ~ TW
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toomuchcluelessness said:
Reblogged this on toomuchcluelessness and commented:
Enough said :>
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblog. Namaste. ~ TW
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Jeff Brunson said:
In my morning reading, I ran across this; which I believe fits with your great post-
This comes from the wonderful book, Beauty by John O’Donohue:
“Providence is another name for the kindness of God. If we could realize how wise the providence around us is, it would give us immense confidence on our journey. The irony is that we don’t need to worry. We can take a lot more risks than we realize. It is interesting to ask: what are the limits you have set for your life? Where are the lines of these limits? Why do you think you cannot go beyond them? How real are they? Did you construct these limits out of anxiety and fear? If you were to go beyond your most solidly set limits, what difference would it make in your life? What are you missing by remaining confined?
The awakening to the beauty of your creativity can totally change the way you view limits. When you see the limit not as a confining barrier but as a threshold, you are already beyond.”
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The Truth Warrior said:
I love the quote. It is really beautiful and inspiring. I am a big fan of John O’Donohue’s writing. Thanks for sharing. Namaste. ~ TW
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Organized Living Essentials said:
Love, love your wisdom. Thank you! ~ Thea
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks so much Thea for your encouraging and kind words. Namaste. ~ TW
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hopeforheather said:
I just reblogged this. Thank you.
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Thanks for the reblog. Namaste. ~ TW
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Kozo said:
Great post. I love how you give real life personal examples. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom.
I agree that one of the obstacles to acceptance is judgement. If we refrain from judging a situation, then it seems easier to accept since we are not resisting anything “bad.” In my life, I have found that “rock bottom” gives us a firm foundation to make our greatest leaps. We just have to take the negative connotations out of “rock bottom.” I, too, am currently unemployed, but I am thankful that I have the time to read blogs like yours.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hello 🙂 Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom and honesty. Great to hear from you. I wish you much happiness on your own journey. Namaste. ~ TW
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smarterwiser said:
I really appreciate your posts! Yesterday I decided to share a part of my past that I had difficulty accepting. I am at a place now to understand it is part of me and who I am and choose to be. Thank you for being such a postive influence.
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The Truth Warrior said:
I am glad you like them. Thanks so much for sharing. I wish you much happiness on your journey. Namaste. ~ TW
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pascualjohnrudolf said:
Reblogged this on JanDolfy's side… and commented:
“You should never hate anyone, even your worst enemies. Everyone has something good about them. You have to find the redeeming quality and love the person for that.”
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblogg!! Namaste. ~ TW
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MoodyRayan29 said:
I could think of only 3 words after finishing the article.. wow wow and wow.. hats off to you, simply incredible.. 🙂
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks so much for your kind comment. I am glad you liked it. Namaste. ~ TW
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