It seems easy to say yes to what we want and no to what we don’t
want but how many of us actually do it in our lives? I see in my
life that at times I have been conditioned to say yes when I mean no and to say no when I mean yes.
We could be in a relationship that we don’t like, or a job that we
hate or living in an environment that doesn’t serve us. We can get caught up
in the cycle of focusing on what we don’t want and not consciously and
positively focusing and moving towards what we do want. We can get
trapped in this place and our lives can pass us by.
You usually know if what is happening in your life is what you want by
the way you feel. You feel good and positive in yourself. You have a
feeling of joy and aliveness within yourself in that you know that
this is something that you really want. When you don’t want something,
the opposite is true and you feel lack of enthusiasm, lack of
excitement and low energy.
Often times we don’t say yes to what we want because of our fear of
being disapproved by the people or society around us. We seem to have
linked the need for approval, acceptance and praise of other people of
being of higher importance than us actually saying yes to what we want. I
know of a guy who pursued a medical profession which he hated so that
he could gain the approval and acceptance from those around him,
especially his parents. He still chooses to continue in this
profession even though his heart isn’t in it. Our own feelings that we
don’t deserve and that we are not good enough to go for what we want
can also play a strong role in preventing us from going for what we
want.
Probably one of the more challenging areas I have found to say yes to
what I want and to be true to myself is in the area of personal
relationships, especially romantic ones. At times when we get involved
with somebody in a romantic way, games such as trying to please the
other person and seeking their approval can get in the way of us
having an authentic and loving connection with that person. They can
also get in the way of us saying yes to what we want in the
relationship and in life in general.
When we choose to say Yes to what we want and No to what we
don’t want, we will;
* Start loving and accepting ourselves more.
* Be happier and more peaceful in ourselves.
* Be more authentic and excited by life because we are doing what we want.
* Have higher self-esteem and confidence in ourselves.
* Have fun in life.
* Be living our lives based on our own approval, acceptance and praise.
Here are a few questions to invite you to say YES to what you do want
and say NO to what you don’t want…
* Check in and ask yourself does this feel true for me? Is this what
I really want?
* Am I saying yes or no to gain approval, acceptance and praise with
this person or these people?
* How is it serving me to say no when I mean yes and yes when I mean no?
* If I truly loved myself, would I say No or Yes to this situation or person?
* What could happen in my life if I started to say yes and no when I
meant it?
As always I welcome any feedback, comments or words of wisdom you may have…
Namaste,
TW
littlevoicetalks said:
Positive start to my day by reading such and energised post. Thank you x
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome 🙂 Namaste. TW
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kellie@writingmoment said:
Great post! I can really relate to this! I’m in a job and feel stuck, but I got here by trying to please others, even live up to the expectations placed on me by society. Thanks for this, good stuff!
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome 🙂 I wish you the best on your own journey on being true to yourself. Namaste. TW
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Haddon Musings said:
I nominated you for a Sunshine Blogger Award. You can read about it at http://www.haddonmusings.com. Please don’t feel obligated to participate.
Bernadette Laganella
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks so much for your kind nomination. I really appreciate it! Namaste. TW
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HopefulSorrow said:
This really speaks to me, as I recently came out of a very toxic friendship that shook my foundation to the core. A lot of what you are speaking about is co-dependency (people pleasing). Breaking away from this pattern is difficult, but if I didn’t, it would have destroyed me and my family. Thank you.
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome. I am glad that you liked the post. I wish you the best on your own journey. Namaste. TW
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willowmarie said:
this is a topic I think of so often- I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard someone talk about the consequences of NOT living authentically.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks so much for sharing. So true what you said. Namaste. TW
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Lexia Cherry - Qualified Life Coach said:
Love your work, Namaste
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thank you so much 🙂 Namaste. TW
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marlajayne said:
About 15 years ago I came across a sentence in a book that immediately changed my thinking and acting: you deserve the best that life and love have to offer. The author, Melody Beattie, also had some helpful things to say about yes and no. The book was The Language of Letting Go.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hi. Thanks so much for sharing. I will check the book out. Namaste. TW
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Why?Matters! said:
Since I stepped out of this I feel better. (out of what my parents want. We had a family business)
Now is the time to focus on my own goals.
The problems to find the goal where i aim my power on. this is my story about becoming happier.
I
Hopfully you don’t rate it as spam with the link. :-D.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for sharing and for your honesty. I checked out your link and it is very good. I wish you the best on your journey. Namaste. TW
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Ted DesMaisons said:
Hi there. Thanks for liking my TED WORDS post and for bringing me here. I’m glad for the inspiration!
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are welcome 🙂 Namaste. TW
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ripley012012 said:
Reblogged this on Cerebral Fitness.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblog. Namaste. TW
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jacksjottings said:
You come up with helpful and important points.
Saying and doing things to get the applause.
That our true-self is not comfortable with.
By putting the untrue ego first.
Will not find us peace of mind._/\_
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The Truth Warrior said:
It’s so true what you said. Thanks so much for sharing. TW
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