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We all have experienced negative things happening in our lives. These can range from things such as losing our job, getting an illness of some kind, losing somebody close to us to not having the right education or upbringing. It fascinates me how some people choose to react in different ways to the same circumstance.
When we choose to be a victim when something happens to us in our lives, we are essentially giving our power away. We are coming from a place of feeling powerlessness and having no control in the situation we are in. We can go into stories of poor me, I am so helpless and why does this always happen to me. We can go into a place of blaming or complaining about our childhood or our circumstances for our lot in life.
There can be many reasons why we choose to be a victim. It could be that we don’t want to take responsibility for our lives, or maybe that we get sympathy and attention from people by being a victim. It could also be because we have a fear of failure and are afraid to take proactive action in our lives. Ultimately we are the only ones who really know why we are choosing to be a victim and how it is serving us in some way.
There can be many drawbacks in choosing to be a victim in your life. When we choose to be a victim, life can pass us by because we stay in the victim or the poor me mode and we don’t take proactive action in our situation. We also can have the tendency to attract negative people, circumstances and situations to us because of how we are feeling. Being a victim may seem ok in the short term however in the long term it usually means that we create more negative situations. I can see in my life that there have been times I have played the role of being a victim. I remember one time when I was looking for work and I was blaming and complaining about the economy and the fact that there were no jobs out there. In hindsight I can see that I needed to take control and take responsibility for the situation and stop complaining and blaming.
When we choose to be a victor, we feel empowered in the situation that we are in. We refuse to let the situation get the better of us. When something happens outside of us which we do not like, we do not blame anybody but we take full responsibility for the situation that we are in. We have a positive attitude about our life and we tend to be generally positive in response to things that happen to us. We feel in control and a certainty that everything will be ok no matter what happens. When we are a victor we start taking proactive action in our lives and we feel good about ourselves. We ultimately say YES to life. I know of a guy who lost his legs in a car accident and as a result losted his job. He turned his situation around and started writing for a living and is now a successful writer.
Here are a few tips in how we can choose to be a victor in our lives ;
* Start looking for the good in the situation you are in….ask what are the blessings in my life right now?
* Who is in a worse situation than me right now?
* Start taking positive proactive action towards what you want!
* Say to yourself – I am stronger than this and I am bigger than this!!
* Become aware of your situation and say I have a choice in how I want to respond !
* If you are feeling like a victim, ask yourself how is it serving me to be like this?
* What can I do to take my power back in my current situation?
* Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start focusing on how you can make the most of the situation you are in right now!
As always I would love to hear any feedback, words of inspiration or wisdom you may have.
Namaste,
TW
silverliningsproject said:
Sometimes it feels like we don’t have a choice, but there’s always a choice – like you say, we can choose how to react. Like Nelson Mandela when he came out of prison and chose to forgive the people who kept him there.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Yes we always have a choice 🙂 Yes Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison and he choose to forgive the people who put him in there. Thanks for sharing. Namaste. TW
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Diane Tibert said:
I agree, and sometimes we have to be reminded of this.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Yes. I think we all can have a tendency to forget at times….Namaste. TW
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agelessbeauty40 said:
Hi, its a lot harder when its on the home front. I recently lost a brother through murder, I won’t get into it but its taken over two years to put his murderer behind bars. My brother & I were very close & at times I feel lost & yes I know its apart of the grieving process, so I try to do as much meditation as I can, sometimes this helps & sometimes it doesn’t. I get regular counseling, so i know I am doing all I can to help myself but even with all the help in the world…it doesn’t take away the pain of loss & the guilt that myself & my family feel for not being in a position to stop this horrible thing from happening to him. I try & stay positive even on my lowest days. I just want to say thank you for what wisdom you share because it helps those who are searching for those answers.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hi. Thank you so much for sharing your honesty. I know that it must be hard for you right now in all that you are going through. You are in my prayers. I wish you much peace and joy on your journey. Namaste. TW
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agelessbeauty40 said:
Reblogged this on agelessbeauty40 and commented:
Inspirational wisdom.
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shae8 said:
This is very insightful and very true. We can so easily fall into the victim mindset and get stuck there. It is only when we exercise our own responsibility that we realise that we are the only ones who can free ourselves from the victim consciousness. This archetype is always one of the strongest in people.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for sharing so much your words of wisdom. I really like what you said. It’s very true that we are the only ones who can shift us from this mindset. Namaste. TW
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Carol Hampson said:
Wonderful thoughts, clear and cohesively expressed. Thanks for sharing. Carol
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome. Thanks for your words of inspiration. Namaste. TW
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hoping4astory said:
I think some people who play the victim, don’t know they are doing that. It’s sad to be around someone who is always the victim. It just wears you out talking to them. Although I must admit, I do it myself sometimes.
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The Truth Warrior said:
I agree some people are not even aware that they are playing the role of poor me. They can become their story. Namaste. TW
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financialrehab said:
I have lived the “woe is me” and I have lived the “I am a victor”. You are right, “I am a victor” has taken me to heights that the “woe is me” never imagined.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for your honesty. I think we all have played the role of each. It good to be aware of it when we are doing it. Namaste. TW
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lruthnum said:
Thank you for these thoughts and wise words, they could not be more suited to my current situation. It would be so easy for me to roll over in my situation and either accept it or just let it break me down but I don’t want to – I’m looking for solutions and ways out of it. I’m taking control of the situation as best I can, but it is difficult because so much of it is out of my control – I have to wait for others to make decisions before I can make my own. How can I take control when the situation is so out of my hands?
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thank you so much for your honesty and for all that you said. It has been my experience that usually all we can control is the beliefs we have about what we are experiencing…..Namaste. TW
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mscharlies said:
Thank you for following WordBowlbyMsCharlieS.com and thank you for introducing me to your provocative and powerful writing! This piece in particular resonates on so many levels. Very much looking forward to reading more!
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The Truth Warrior said:
You are very welcome 🙂 I am glad you enjoyed it. Namaste. TW
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createthinklive said:
Reblogged this on createthinklive and commented:
Choose to be a winner!
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks for the reblog 🙂 Namaste. TW
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benzeknees said:
This is very interesting! I also know how true it is that if you are playing the victim you will attract negative people & so the cycle continues. I have COPD & at first I felt like a victim, but I took my power back & learned as much as I can, joined an online support group & now it is just a part of my life. It’s just another thing I have to deal with in my life. I may have limitations but I am not a victim. Thanks for following Benzeknees!
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The Truth Warrior said:
Well done to you!! Best of luck on your journey. Namaste. TW
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Norman W. Werner said:
You might also like my post on the same topic – http://normsmilfordblog.com/?s=be+a+victor
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hi Norman! Just read some of your blog. Very inspiring. Namaste. TW
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jgarrott said:
I deal with people in all sorts of situations, and find that a victim mentality is perhaps the biggest hindrance to their getting up and moving on. We are all incredibly blessed, whatever difficulties we might face at any given moment.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Hello. Thank you for sharing. I like what you said. It is very true. Namaste. TW
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vonchris said:
Well said!
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thanks 🙂 Namaste. TW
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Rebecca said:
I agree. I’ve written a lot on my blog about the fact that we are always making choices. Victim mentality is a choice, too. I am a Christian and I believe Christ Himself evidenced the power to choose throughout His life;even His death was a choice. Thanks also for following me at faithsighanddiy. God bless.
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The Truth Warrior said:
So true what you said. Thanks so much for sharing. I wish you the best in 2015. Namaste. TW
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humptydumptymuralmagic said:
Very well said! Welcome to my magical blog. I was so flattered when you started following me. Thank You. I hope that I can continue to inspire you and make you smile.
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The Truth Warrior said:
Thank you for your kind words. I look forward to following your blog. Namaste. TW
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