I think many of us already know of the power of forgiveness however how many of us really practice it in our daily lives? Many times we choose to hang on to the hurt, the anger, the guilt and the pain rather than let it go and forgive the person who has wronged us. I know that it can be easier said than done however when we choose to forgive, we are doing it for ourselves.
If for example somebody wrongs us in some way and we choose to hold anger and hatred towards that person, we are really the ones who are suffering and hurting in the situation. This anger and resentment that we feel has been known to turn into disease in certain people’s lives. I know in my experience that when I had anger towards a person, I thought in my own head that I was hurting that person by feeling this way. The reality was that I was only hurting myself.
In my own experience the person I have found hardest to forgive has been myself. I can see in my life that when I failed in certain areas in my life such as relationships, jobs etc. that I was angry with myself for not succeeding and I found it hard to show myself forgiveness and compassion. I can see in hindsight that by treating myself this way, I was doing myself no favours in moving on and letting go.
Often times we don’t choose to forgive the person or people because we believe in some way that we are justified. We believe that we are right to feel this anger or hatred towards this person or people because of what they have done. Usually we are coming from the ego and we don’t fully see the truth of the situation we are in. We may say ” how dare that this person do this to me” or “they have no right to treat me this way” . When we choose not to forgive somebody, usually it is because it is serving us in someway to stay in this place of non-forgiveness.
When we learn or choose to forgive somebody or some people, we are ultimately choosing to let go of what the person has said and done and choosing not to allow your peace and happiness be affected. It is very easy to love somebody when they are nice to us or treat us well however it takes a more evolved person to choose to have compassion and love for somebody when they are not this way. As a result of practicing forgiveness, we will have more love and compassion for ourselves and those around us. We will have greater peace of mind and happiness also.
Here are a few ways in how we can forgive somebody…
* Write out 100 times “I fully and freely forgive “name of the person” for “whatever wrong they did to you” and then for the following 6 days write out 100 times “I fully and freely forgive (name of the person) ”
* How is it serving me to feel this anger, hatred or resentment towards this person?
* What is stopping me from choosing peace and happiness now?
* If I had a choice in this situation, would I prefer to be right or be happy?
* What would love do now?
* Write a letter to the person who hurt you outlining to them what they did and that you are now choosing to forgive them for what they did. (Don’t post or email the letter)
As always I would love to hear your words of wisdom, feedback or any comments you may have…