5 Keys To Create More Possibility In Your Life For 2015

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Acceptance, creativity, Gratitude, happiness, Health, Life, philosophy, psychology

Anything can be possible, if we believe that it is possible. It usually starts first in our minds and in the way we think. Whether we think something is possible or not, usually we are right.

When we come from a place of possibility in our lives, we come from a place of unlimited thinking. We choose to not place limitations or restrictions on who we are or how we should be in the world. If you see children, most of them have a look of curiosity and possibility on their faces. They normally believe that they can be, do or have anything. They are generally not limited by their thinking, in what they can or cannot create or achieve in their lives.

Originally, most of us were full of possibility when we were younger, however along the way, much of our thinking became influenced by our parents, our teachers, our friends, our society, our bosses and the media, which at times resulted in our thinking becoming limited. Our beliefs could have changed to;

“I can’t do this”

“I can’t do that”

“I’m not good enough”

“I’m too old or too young”

“I don’t have enough of…….”

“I need…..to achieve this”

“The world is a scary place”

“I won’t succeed or I will fail”

All these beliefs are from a place of lack of possibility. Beliefs like these and many others, do not help us on our path to create more possibility, choices or abundance in our lives.

When we are restricted or constricted with thinking which does not create possibilities in our lives, it can hold us back from becoming the amazing person we can be in the world. This thinking can lead us down a path of living a small, insignificant life, which can be unfulfilling, unrewarding and maybe lack any meaning or purpose. It can prevent us from us from expressing our talents and gifts in areas such as playing music, writing, painting, acting, singing and many other creative areas. Thinking like this can also move us into a negative and unworthy place in our lives.

 

When we choose to believe in possibility, with ourselves and the world we live in, our whole world opens up. We start seeing things from a completely different perspective. We come from a place of openness and non-judgement. We let go of the beliefs which hinder us. We usually start to feel good about ourselves and the environment around us. We feel more confident and worthwhile in ourselves. We start to see the world as a glass half full rather than half empty. We also attract more positive opportunities into our lives because of the very nature of our possibility thinking.

 

Here are a few guidelines I have come up with in regards to creating more possibility in your life;

 

√   Ask yourself – if everything was possible, what would I do?

√   Brainstorm possible solutions to a particular problem in your life – use mind maps by Tony Buzan to help you.

√   Ask yourself – who  says this is not possible and is it really true?

√   Talk to people who have created what you believe is impossible and ask them how they did it?

√   Surround yourself with people who think possibilities –  people who are uplifting and positive.

As always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or words of inspiration you may have.

Namaste,

TW

Are You A Groundhog?

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Acceptance, awareness, happiness, philosophy, psychology, Relationships, spirituality

I recently watched the movie, Groundhog Day and it got me thinking that many of us, myself included can be living our own groundhog day. A groundhog is a creature of habit. Much of our lives are governed by habits we have adopted in our lives and these habits can be serving us and not serving us.

We can have good habits and bad habits. We can have habits which reduce our quality of life or increase it. We can have habits which lead our lives to a place of misery and destruction or to a place of happiness and fulfillment.

We may have habits such as smoking, drinking lots of alcohol, eating the wrong foods, not exercising, hanging out with the wrong people, spending money rather than saving it or even going to bed late. Most of our lives can be a routine of habits, day in and day out. These habits can become unconscious in that we don’t even realise or are not aware that we are doing them.

Companies, especially food and drink, know that consumers like you and me, are creatures of habit. How many of us change our brand of cereal or washing powder, which we buy in the supermarket every week? We rarely do! These companies know that once a consumer starts buying a certain product and if they are happy with it in regards to the quality and the quantity, then there is a high possibility that the customer will continue buying that particular product for a very long time.

A habit is usually a learned or routine pattern of behaviour, which is repeated so often that it becomes automatic or unconscious. If for example, you wake up in the morning and unconsciously have a cigarette, you have a habit. You could also have the habit of doing some physical exercise everyday, as well.

At times, lots of our old habits can be very hard to break and new habits can be hard to create. These old habits, which we repeat most often, can become ingrained in our brain. That is why at times, it can be so hard to break a habit, because of the emotional and psychological attachment or dependency we may have with the habit.

There is immense power and reward if we choose to adopt good habits in our lives. Good habits could be anything from exercising regularly, getting up early in the morning to eating healthy foods. When we choose to adopt positive habits, we usually feel the difference in our mental and physical health, our relationships, our financial situation and even in our environment.

At times it can be easier said than done, to change a habit. Here are a few tips I have come up with in regards to changing a habit;

√   Become aware of the habit that you would like to change.

√   Ask yourself – how is it serving me to have this habit?

√   What are the consequences if I continue with this habit?

√   Look for an alternative positive habit to replace your existing habit.

√   What is the positive gain or the reward you will get by embracing this new habit?

As always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or words of inspiration you may have….

Namaste,

~ TW

The Art Of Being In A Career You Love

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Career, happiness, inspiration, philosophy, psychology, work

Most of us spend 40 hours a week and over 40 years or more in our jobs. The sad fact is that many people are in jobs which they have no real enthusiasm or excitement for. They are buying their time and they don’t feel connected to what they do. In many cases they are doing the job for the sake of paying the bills. A lot of time people end up in jobs or careers that they don’t really like because they fell into them or were told by their teachers, family or society that this would be a good job or career to do.

I know when I was growing up and considering what to do with my life in regards to my career, there was very little guidance and useful help in this area. At times I found I was at a lost at what to do and ended up in a career which I didn’t find fulfilling or rewarding. It served a purpose in that from the outside that I looked like I was a productive member of society however inside I was feeling empty and meaningless. I lacked passion and excitement for what I was doing.

In considering a career which may be of interest to you, it is important to look at your values and if they are congruent to the career you wish to pursue. Your values are the things in your life which you place a high value on and which are important to you. They could be freedom, money, creativity, relationships, travel, status, security, family, work-life balance, teamwork, fun etc. If for example your 5 top values are work-life balance, family, fun, freedom and teamwork then if you are in a job/career which you have to work very long hours and is very stressful and which doesn’t allow you much time or freedom for family and other things in your life, then there is a high possibility that you will not be very happy.

It also important to be engaged in a career area which you are interested and are passionate about. If the career that you choose engages in a few or more of your interests, you will be happier in it. Your interests could range from yoga, music, sport, marketing, personal development, travel, animals, organic farming, cooking, dancing, writing etc. If you are in a career area which you are not passionate about, make a list of the areas that you are interested in and brainstorm possible career options that you could choose or create in this area. For example if you have an interest in writing, music and travel you could become a music journalist/reporter and travel and interview musicians.

Another aspect in choosing a career which best suits you is your personality. What kind of personality do you have? Are you extroverted or introverted? Do you predominantly like to use your feelings or your mind in making decisions? Do you like to use your senses or your intuition? Are you action or thought orientated? If for example you are a person who is introverted and doesn’t enjoy lots of interaction with people then there is a strong possibility that you would not be very suitable to a sales job.

The skills that you are good at and that you enjoy using are usually strong indicators of the area that you would be suited in working as well. They can range from organizing, planning, sales, presenting, writing, management, coaching, training, marketing, sales etc.

When choosing a career ask yourself the following questions;

* What are my top 5 values?

* What are my interests?

* What kind of personality do I have?

* What skills do I enjoy using and that I am good at?

* When you know the answers to these questions, then brainstorm possible careers that may be suitable with these values, interests, personality and skills….think outside the box 🙂

* Highlight the 3 careers which you would be most interested in pursuing and research them in regards to qualifications needed, what it is like to work in it by talking to people in that career, salary, opportunities etc…

* Then choose the career you would like to pursue 🙂

I hope this was useful…

If you have any feedback, words of wisdom or comments, I would love to hear them….

Namaste,

TW

How To Be A Victor And Not A Victim !

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inspiration, Life, philosophy, psychology, spirituality, Truth

We all have experienced negative things happening in our lives. These can range from things such as losing our job, getting an illness of some kind, losing somebody close to us to not having the right education or upbringing. It fascinates me how some people choose to react in different ways to the same circumstance.

When we choose to be a victim when something happens to us in our lives, we are essentially giving our power away. We are coming from a place of feeling powerlessness and having no control in the situation we are in. We can go into stories of poor me, I am so helpless and why does this always happen to me. We can go into a place of blaming or complaining about our childhood or our circumstances for our lot in life.

There can be many reasons why we choose to be a victim. It could be that we don’t want to take responsibility for our lives, or maybe that we get sympathy and attention from people by being a victim. It could also be because we have a fear of failure and are afraid to take proactive action in our lives. Ultimately we are the only ones who really know why we are choosing to be a victim and how it is serving us in some way.

There can be many drawbacks in choosing to be a victim in your life. When we choose to be a victim, life can pass us by because we stay in the victim or the poor me mode and we don’t take proactive action in our situation. We also can have the tendency to attract negative people, circumstances and situations to us because of how we are feeling. Being a victim may seem ok in the short term however in the long term it usually means that we create more negative situations. I can see in my life that there have been times I have played the role of being a victim. I remember one time when I was looking for work and I was blaming and complaining about the economy and the fact that there were no jobs out there. In hindsight I can see that I needed to take control and take responsibility for the situation and stop complaining and blaming.

When we choose to be a victor, we feel empowered in the situation that we are in. We refuse to let the situation get the better of us. When something happens outside of us which we do not like, we do not blame anybody but we take full responsibility for the situation that we are in. We have a positive attitude about our life and we tend to be generally positive in response to things that happen to us. We feel in control and a certainty that everything will be ok no matter what happens. When we are a victor we start taking proactive action in our lives and we feel good about ourselves. We ultimately say YES to life. I know of a guy who lost his legs in a car accident and as a result losted his job. He turned his situation around and started writing for a living and is now a successful writer.

Here are a few tips in how we can choose to be a victor in our lives ;

* Start looking for the good in the situation you are in….ask what are the blessings in my life right now?

* Who is in a worse situation than me right now?

* Start taking positive proactive action towards what you want!

* Say to yourself – I am stronger than this and I am bigger than this!!

* Become aware of your situation and say I have a choice in how I want to respond !

* If you are feeling like a victim, ask yourself how is it serving me to be like this?

* What can I do to take my power back in my current situation?

* Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start focusing on how you can make the most of the situation you are in right now!

As always I would love to hear any feedback, words of inspiration or wisdom you may have.

Namaste,

TW