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Is The Truth Making You Happy?

30 Friday Jan 2015

Posted by The Truth Warrior in happiness, Health, peace, Philosophy, Psychology, Truth

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Our lives are governed by our beliefs. Many of them, we may believe to be the truth. Often times these beliefs, can have the potential to create happiness or unhappiness in our lives and the world around us. Two people with the exactly same set of circumstances and conditions, can have a completely different experience, because of the beliefs they hold.

The beliefs which we choose to believe are rarely an absolute truth. Beliefs are usually a relative truth. At times they can feel like they are actually the truth, because of the evidence we have created about them from our lives. This evidence can evolve from the media, society, people around us, personal experience, parents, teachers and religion.

Our level of happiness can be significantly impacted by the beliefs we choose to adopt in our lives. If for example, we believe a belief to be the truth such as, “life is hard”, this can pave the way to creating more unhappiness. By having unhappy generating beliefs, we can feel more dis-empowered and feel like a victim.

We maybe also less likely to take action to change our situation, if it is required. Because of these beliefs, we could be angry and bitter about things in our life, because they are clouding our perception of the person or the situation. Lack of happiness, peace, joy and love, can be a result of these unhappy beliefs. They can also keep us stuck in life rather than move forward.

Many people can believe that their unhappiness is caused by outside circumstances, people and things. When I traveled India, about a year ago, I noticed that some of the people there had very little in terms of materialism, however they appeared to be genuinely very happy. We can get into the cycle of blaming other people or other things for our unhappiness and say “you are making me sad, angry or unhappy”. However it is usually the beliefs we are believing, which can be creating this experience for us.

When we choose to believe more happy beliefs in our lives, we become more empowered in our experience. We can get more out of life and start living more like a victor. We begin to know that happiness is an inside job and it is not dependent on something outside of ourselves. We feel that we are in control of our lives, rather than allowing circumstances or people determine and control our level of happiness. When we adopt happy generating beliefs, the consequence is that we feel more positive and optimistic.

Here are a few questions I have come up with, in how to change your beliefs to more happy ones:

√   In regards to what I am believing right now – would I prefer to be right or be happy?

√   How is it serving me to believe these unhappy beliefs?

√   What are the consequences of believing these beliefs?

√   Do I really want to change these beliefs?

√   Are these beliefs really true and what is the evidence? 

√   If I choose to believe something different, how would I feel?

√   What could I choose to believe now, to change this belief?

As always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or words of inspiration you may have.

Namaste,

TW

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5 Essential Ingredients For A Great Loving Relationship

31 Sunday Aug 2014

Posted by The Truth Warrior in Awareness, Gratitude, happiness, inspiration, love, peace, Philosophy, Psychology, relationships, Spirituality

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We all want to have great relationships especially with that special person however often times we seem to be unable to create this in our lives. In the world that we live in, we usually learn how to have relationships from those people around us usually from our parents who often times may not be exactly the perfect role models for a healthy and loving relationship.

In every relationship, there are 3 relationships happening. There is the relationship you have with yourself, the relationship your partner has with themselves and the relationship you have together. If any of these relationships is not healthy and loving, it usually effects the other relationships.

In any relationship, the following ingredients are essential in creating, maintaining and growing a healthy and loving relationship;

1. Trust

Trust always begins with yourself. You can only ever trust somebody as much as you trust yourself. If you don’t trust yourself, it is very hard to trust another.

It is usually our fear rooted beliefs which prevents us from trusting the other person completely. These can be fears of rejection, fears of disapproval, fears of being alone or fears of not being loved by the other person. The less you love yourself, the less you have the ability to trust yourself and the person you love.

Trust essentially starts with yourself. You can start to trust yourself by loving yourself more. You can start to do this by listening to your feelings and trusting the voice within yourself and take action if you feel inspired to do it. When you trust yourself, you start to have more belief and faith in yourself. You let go of the doubts and the beliefs which stop you from trusting yourself and trusting others.

2. Authenticity

When we choose to be fully authentic in a relationship, we choose to be fully ourselves – the good and the bad! At times this can be easier said than done. To be authentic means to stop the people pleasing and approval seeking behaviour that we can have a tendency to engage with when we are in a relationship with somebody. Being authentic means to be true to who you are and to just be yourself. In my experience the more I have choosen to be authentic in a relationship, the more the person I am with has felt free to be authentic.

It is normally our fear that the other person will reject us or may not approve of or love us, which prevents us from being fully authentic in a relationship. At times we may not feel safe to be authentic because of the other person’s judgements or their expectations for us to be a certain way.

You can be authentic by connecting with how you are truly feeling and what you truly want. Then when you are connected with this, you can start communicating this to your partner. Maybe there is something that you don’t like in regards to what your partner is doing or saying. A good first step would be to communicate this to them.

3. Communication

Communication is essential in any relationship especially in relationship with your significant other. They say that we only communicate 7% by the words that we speak and the rest is by our body language and the tone of our voices. I think this is very true. It is so important to be clear and specific in our communication with our loved one otherwise they may interpret what we are saying as to meaning something completely different.

Lack of effective communication is usually caused by the beliefs or opinions we have of what is being communicated to us. We may assume a certain thing by what a person is saying and this may not be the truth of what they are saying. For example if your partner does not want to meet you it could be for a variety of reasons and may not be the beliefs you have in your head. If there are times that we are not present when something is being communicated to us, it is easy not to fully listen to what the other person is saying. If we are emotional, it can also cloud our interpretation of what the person is saying.

In communicating effectively, it is very important to be clear and specific in regards to what you are communicating. Try to let go of any judgements or assumptions you may have in regards to what the person is saying. When you are listening to what is being communicated, it is good practice to be as present and open to the person as possible.

4. Self-care

At times when we are in a relationship we can forget about caring for ourselves. We can focus on the other person and forget about our own needs and wants. Choosing to care for ourselves can mean different things for different people. Essentially it means loving ourselves. It means taking time out for yourself, treating yourself to something nice, knowing your boundaries in a relationship or learning to say no and yes when it feels right.

If you don’t choose to care for yourself in a relationship it can lead to an imbalance. Lots of times the relationship can become a co-dependent relationship because you can have an expectation or need from the other person to care for you and your happiness can become dependent on them. This dynamic can often lead to fights or disagreements.

You can start caring for yourself in a relationship by knowing your boundaries and limitations, by communicating in an authentic way in regards your wants and needs and ultimately taking responsibility for your happiness.

5. Appreciation

Often times we can find it easier to criticize and find fault with the person we are in a relationship with rather than give them praise and show them appreciation. When we focus on the good behaviour of a person, we unconscious reinforce this behaviour. The opposite is true as well in that when we focus on the bad behaviour or the so called bad things that a person does, we reinforce this behaviour, because we are giving attention to it.

You can learn to appreciate the person you are with by saying thanks for the simple little things that they do for you on a daily basis. You could also do this by buying something unexpected for them to show that you appreciate them. You could also make a list of all the great qualities/characteristics that your partner has and tell them about them. They can also do this for you too 🙂

As always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or words of wisdom you may have.

Namaste.

TW

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Presence

17 Tuesday Apr 2012

Posted by The Truth Warrior in authenticity, Awareness, Faith, Gratitude, happiness, Health, inspiration, Inspiration, joy, Life, love, Meditation, My life, peace, People, Philosophy, Poems, present moment, Psychology, Spirituality, spirituality, thoughts, trust, truth, Uncategorized, Writing, Yoga

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Here is another poem I wrote recently and feel inspired to share with you. I hope you like it:)

Presence

Trusting the moment is now,

Letting go of the morrow,

Feeling what I am feeling,

Seeing what I am seeing,

Knowing I am where I am,

Choosing thoughts filled with calm,

Who knows what will happen next,

Keep it simple, not complex,

Just being with what comes up,

Trusting that it is enough.

I would love to hear any feedback or comments you may have.

Namaste,

TW

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Your power is always in the present moment…

30 Friday Mar 2012

Posted by The Truth Warrior in authenticity, Gratitude, happiness, inspiration, Inspiration, Life, Miscellaneous, peace, People, Philosophy, philosophy, Psychology, psychology, Quotes, random thoughts, thoughts, trust, truth, Truth, Uncategorized, Writing

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I know a lot has been written on living in the now….I have read the books, listened to the tapes and watched the movies on it however I see in my life I am rarely living in the actually now. I am usually living for the tomorrows, the next weeks, the next months and the next years.

I came to this realisation the other day when I was having a deep chat with a friend of mine. I could see that the majority, if not all of my problems in life are resulting from not being able to live and appreciate the now. I see my mind is living in the future or in the past. This is all a story that is going on in my head. The story of what things will be like in the future….

Somebody once said to me that when we are present, we are happy. If you have kids or ever look at kids, you can see that they are nearly always living in the now.

At times I get stressed in my life because of work and other various things. I can see that I am not as effective as when I am in a place of presence and calm. I am not able to think clearly and creatively. When we are stressed we are more likely to make mistakes and we rarely enjoy the journey or the process of what we are doing or being.

When we are present we are much more effective in our lives.

Have you ever had the experience of somebody listening to you who was fully present?

When we are fully present, we come into a flow state, where there is no resistance. Many people in sport find this is true as a way to maximize their performance.

So how does somebody become present? Well the first place is to become aware and notice that you are not in the present moment. Come back to your breath and close your eyes and check in and see what is going on for you now.

Come back in to your body….

How are you feeling now?

Is your breath fast or slow?

What kind of thoughts are going through your mind?

Focus your attention on where ever you are now.

Take in the colours, the smells, the tastes, the sounds…..

Say…..I am where I am!

Your Power is always in the present moment!!

Enjoy the journey…not just the destination:)

TW

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Gratitude is the Attitude…

13 Monday Feb 2012

Posted by The Truth Warrior in authenticity, Blog, Blogs, Economy, Faith, freedom, Fun, Gratitude, happiness, Health, inspiration, Inspiration, joy, Life, Lifestyle, love, Love, Media, Other, peace, People, Personal, philosophy, Psychology, psychology, random thoughts, Relationships, Spirituality, thoughts, trust

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I have found that being grateful for all the good things and the not so good things in my life, as a great way to strengthen my attitude of mind is regards to whatever happens to me. There is a gift and an opportunity in everything that happens to us in our lives, whether we perceive it at the time or not. It keeps out mind from dwelling on dis-satisfaction. I can see in my own life that when I am in a place of moaning, groaning and complaining about things and not loving what is, that I am essentially creating more of that in my life. I am focusing on all the things that I am dissatisfied with in my life.

When we choose to focus our minds and keep our attention on the best in our lives, it is to surround ourselves with the best and we start becoming the best. The creative power within us makes us into to the image that we are giving our attention. What we think about, we start to become. When our mind is grateful we are focused on the best and we tend to become the best. When we choose to be grateful for all things, we are expecting good things to come into our lives and this expectation becomes faith in our lives.

Imagine living a life of cultivating the habit of being continually grateful for all the good things that come to us and giving thanks continually….

I see around me, people giving out about the economic situation, the politicians, the country, the people…this is a wasted effort because we are focusing on what we do not want. We are not in a place of gratitude when we give out about these things in our lives and it is taking us away from what we really want to create more of in our lives.

Real faith is having the attitude of gratitude that what ever happens to us in our lives, that it is taking us closer to our goal, whatever that may be. There really is no failure only feedback! When something so called bad or something that we do not like happens to us, we always have the option of embracing an attitude of gratitude, in that what is happening right now is for our greater good.

Having an attitude of gratitude will keep us in close harmony with creative thought from which all good things come and shift us away from a place of thinking of lack…there is no real lack only what our minds perceive.Responding from a place of gratitude is really believing that everything will work out for the greater good.

At times in my own life I have struggled with this concept however when I really practised it, I found it did yield me results. Gratitude for me is not just a mind concept, it is a whole being experience. When I experience gratitude in my life, I have no resistance to what is happening in my life right now and I have complete faith that everything will work out for the good of everybody concerned. When I am grateful, I allow myself to experience peace, love, joy and happiness in this moment and it is not determined or dependant on what is happening to me on an external level. What a beautiful gift to give ourselves….

TW

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