Most of us want to improve some area of our lives, however at times this can be easier said than done. They say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. This is very true. Another definition could also be asking the same questions over and over again and expecting a different result. I was reflecting to myself the other day, on the importance of asking ourselves the right questions.
Our lives are filled with opportunities and challenges every day. Often times it can be our negative view points, poor attitudes or limiting beliefs which can block us from creating solutions to our problems. We could have a job we hate, be struggling financially, be in a relationship that isn’t fullfilling or have other problems. Many of us have been guilty, myself included, of going into the cycle of focusing on the problem by complaining and blaming, however this way of responding rarely gets us positive results.
Asking questions such as; Why me? What else can go wrong? Why does this always happen to me? How come I never seem to get what I want? What is wrong with me? Or why am I always doing this to myself? rarely help to reframe our situation to a more empowering positive one. When we engage in problem focused questions, they dont help us move to a more positive place in our lives and only disempower us to continue with the negative problem focused story in our heads.
When we choose to start asking ourselves questions which are more focused and positive, we are more likely to get more happiness and peace in our lives. They can help us to see our situation from a different view point and empower us to let go the limiting beliefs we have about our situation. We are also more likely to take positive action which best serves us and those around us. These questions also open our minds to more possibilities and opportunities.
If you have a situation in your life, which you consider a problem, here are a few solution focused questions you may like to ask yourself;
* What do I need to understand or learn from this experience?
* What could I do to change or improve my situation?
* What’s next?
* What do I want to happen?
* What is the next step I need to take to create a solution in this situation?
* What am I grateful for now?
* How could I turn this situation around?
As always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or suggestions you may have….