7 Ways How To Start Loving Yourself


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In the times that we live in, it can be hard to take the time to love ourselves with our busy schedules and or hectic lives. We can spend our lives trying to prove ourselves to those around us and end up never taking the time to really love ourselves. A lot of the media has conditioned us into believing that if we have these so called external things then we will be loved and feel loved.

It is usually our lack of trust and belief in ourselves which can prevent us from loving ourselves. Feelings such as I am not good enough and that I don’t deserve can be a part of the conditioning that we feel that it is wrong to love ourselves. When we judge or compare ourselves to other people in society, it can be barrier to us loving ourselves. Many of us live with the need to receive external validation, approval and acceptance from other people and never really giving it to ourselves.

When we are not loving ourselves, we usually don’t feel happy with ourselves. We have a tendency to not trust and believe in ourselves and the unique talents and gifts we have to offer the world. We also can be looking for approval, validation, acceptance and praise from other people. Often times when we are not loving ourselves we tend to not feel a sense of joy, peace and contentment in our lives. We can also believe that somebody like our soul mate is going make us happy and complete our lives however we need to be able to create this for ourselves.

When we are loving ourselves, we usually love and accept ourselves. We find it easy to just be ourselves and not try to be anything that we are not. We find that we treat ourselves kindly, gently and with the respect and dignity that we deserve. When we are loving ourselves, we tend to listen to ourselves and trust the answer that comes. We find it easy to say Yes to what we want and No to what we don’t want. When we are in this place, we seem to be living our lives based on our own approval, acceptance and validation. We find it easy to trust and believe in who we are and have the courage and faith to go for what we want regardless of what other people’s opinions are.

There are many benefits in choosing to love yourself such as;

* Being able to have a feeling of happiness and a sense of joy within.

* Having a more relaxed and carefree life because you are not trying to be anybody that you are not.

* Feeling that you are good enough exactly as you are and you are living your life based on your own approval, acceptance, praise and validation.

* Having less likelihood of mental and physical diseases because you are doing more healthy and loving things for your mind, body and spirit.

* You are more authentic and loving in your relationships with others because you have no expectation for somebody outside yourself to make you happy or to show you love.

Here are a few ways that I have thought of in how we can start to learn to love ourselves more;

1. Listen to your heart and start saying yes to the answer that comes up from within. Start to live your life based on your own approval, acceptance and praise.

2. Be gentle and kind to yourself and believe and know that you are doing the best you can in your current situation.

3. Spend quality time with yourself everyday – even for 1 hour. Do something you enjoy doing which could be playing music, singing, painting, drumming, writing, yoga, etc.

4. Start valuing your gifts and abilities and believe that you have something meaningful to contribute.

5. Stop comparing your life, your circumstances and yourself with people around. You never know what another person’s journey is.

6. Ask yourself – what makes me happy? What do I really want from life?

7. Treat yourself to something nice on a regular basis. This could be a massage, meal, doing something you love, etc.

As always I would love to hear any feedback, words of wisdom, comments you may have.



What Is Your Measure Of Success?


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Often times our definition of so called success is unconsciously defined and created for us by the media, our friends, our families, society and the environment that we live in. There can be certain expectations on each one of us to have achieved certain things in our lives in order to be considered successful. These things can be to have a wife/husband, a good job with a certain status, a house in a particular area, a certain type of car, a particular amount of income etc. In our current society our level of success is often measured by how we appear on the outside rather than how we feel on the inside.

Our measure of success or what we consider to be a success in life is taught to us from an early age. Much of the conditioning we receive when growing up with those around us, can create the beliefs and the framework for our standards of success in our lives. Sometimes these so called standards/expectations can be unrealistic and we can end up in a place of feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with our lives and ourselves.

When we choose to measure our level of success with other people, it can stop us from feeling the happiness, the joy and the satisfaction we experience from achieving something in our lives. For example if we look at Facebook and see people living a more so called ‘successful life’ than ourselves, it can be a recipe for unhappiness. The only person who is stopping us from feeling successful right now is ourselves. If we choose not to feel good for where we are right now in our current circumstances, whatever they maybe, we are making it harder for ourselves to feel successful and to feel happy. If we choose not to listen and trust our hearts, it will nearly be impossible to feel successful because we are not being true to ourselves.

In the world that we live in, if we choose to adopt and use somebody else’s measure of success, we are more than likely going to be unhappy. We will never feel fully satisfied and contented in our lives. A lot of the stress and pressure in our lives can be a result of having an unrealistic measure of success for ourselves. We may feel they we are never really living for ourselves but living for the approval, acceptance and praise of other people.

When we choose to have our own measure of success, we feel they we are being true to ourselves. We feel that we are living for ourselves and that we are creating our lives based on our own approval, acceptance and praise. We feel happiness and joy in our lives because we are following our heart’a desire. We feel more contented and peaceful in our lives.

Here are a few ways that I have come up with in regards to how we can create our own measure of success;

* Create your goals so that they are in alignment with your own values.

* Have realistic and achievable goals which feel good and true for you.

* Ask yourself what does it mean for me to be successful in my life?

* Become aware of your current measure of success and see if this really feels true for you.

* Say to yourself that the greatest measure of success is your own joy and happiness.

As always I would love to hear any feedback, words of wisdom or comments you may have.




Is Your Smart Phone Your Slave Or Your Master?


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I haven’t wrote a blog post for a while however I got the inspiration to write one a few days ago.

Since the the availability of smart phones in recent years, it seems that they have become an integrated part of our lives. Many people now days seem to have a mobile phone or a smart phone of some kind. At times we may wonder how we ever lived without a smart phone?

Since being in India, I have become aware while traveling on public transport such as buses and trains here, that people seem to have a less of a preoccupation with smart phones as opposed to us in the west. The people here seem to come across as being more engaged and more communicative with each other on buses and trains. They talk to each other more openly and there is a sense of community or spirit on these transport systems which I haven’t experienced in the west.

In this day and age, it is always good to feel connected and have the opportunity to communicate with other people when we want to. However at times it can feel that our smartphone is ruling our lives. If you are engaging or have done any of the following, there is a high probability they your smart phone could be your master;

* Constantly checking your iphone or other smart phone device for emails, whatsapps, viper messages, facebook news feed etc.

* Looking at your phone first thing in the morning or last thing at night.

* Feeling naked or that something is missing if you left your phone at home one day by mistake.

* Spending hours in a coffee shop or some other establishment that has wifi and losing complete track of time and of reality.

* Having a panic attack if your phone has 20% battery or less and it is now late afternoon.

* If you have been on a bus, train or plane and you haven’t chatted with the person next to you because of your preoccupation with your smart phone.

There are positives in having a smart phone such as;

* You can get information or news instantly in regards to what is happening in the world.

* You can contact people instantly if there is an emergency of some kind.

* You can make bank account transactions online to pay bills etc.

* You can learn new things with various apps such as learning the guitar, a new language ….

* You can chat to friends and family from all over the world with the simple click of a button.

However there are certain drawbacks in regards to having a smart phone too such as;

* You are contactable 24/7.

* You may find it hard to switch off and relax.

* You can waste lots of time in your life that you could be doing other more worthwhile things such as learning something new. For example if you spend 2 hours per day on average on your smart phone this would equate to approximately 91 eight hour days!

* You can lose your communication and interaction skills with other people and even isolate yourself from life.

* You can also lose your need or desire to interact or socialise with other people.

Here are a couple of ways that I have come up with, that could help you to make your phone your slave rather than your master..

* Switch the phone on silent when you are with other people.

* Discipline yourself in regards to the times when you choose to respond to emails, texts, other messages etc.

* Place your phone in a different room to where you are sleeping and switch it off.

* When on a mode of public transport, look for other creative ways to occupy your time such as chatting with the person next to you or maybe just relaxing and enjoying the moment.

* Keep track of how much time you are on your smart phone everyday and be honest with yourself in regards if you used your time wisely.

* Have the courage to delete any apps that you believe are wasting a lot of your time.

* Limit your smart phone usage to a certain amount of time per day, for example 1 hour per day.

As always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or words of wisdom you may have.



5 Top Secrets To Happiness


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The Truth Warrior

I think the majority of us in this world want to be happy, whether we know it or not. At times it can be easier said than done with all that life brings us and we can forget how to just be simply happy. They say the goal behind every goal is happiness. I would agree with that. When we choose to be happy, our life just flows and that happiness can have a positive affect on everybody that we meet. When we are not happy however, that affects everybody too.

I think Esther Hicks from her book “Ask and it is given” has a great quote about happiness;

“The greatest gift that you could ever give to another is your own happiness, for when you are in a state of joy, happiness, or appreciation, you are fully connected to the Stream of pure, positive Source Energy that is truly who you are. And when you are in that state of connection, anything or anyone that you are holding as your object of attention benefits from your attention.”

From my own experience, here are some ways I have found useful in helping me to achieve happiness in my life;

Stop Comparing

Many of us can compare ourselves, our lives, our possessions, our jobs, our money etc. to other people around us. We can compare ourselves to what is being portrayed on the media as the perfect life and feel that we are not good enough as a result. We may even compare where our lives are now to where we were.

When somebody has a so called better house, car, job it doesn’t mean that they are more happier. Some of the happiest people I have met are people who have very little. Happiness doesn’t come from the outer things as we are brainwashed to believe, it is an inside job.

When we compare ourselves to something or somebody outside ourselves, we are essentially not loving or accepting ourselves. We can never know what another person’s journey is. The first step is to start to love and accept yourself exactly as you are and where you are.

Be present

If we are living our lives in the past or in the future, it is practically impossible to be in the here and now, where all happiness exists. When we choose to be present, we allow ourselves to be happy. We all have things that we regret and that we would like to change about the past. There are certain things or ways that we would like our future life to be, however the only moment we ever have is now.

We can live our lives attached the story of our past however it is our choice if we really want to be happy now and choose to let go of the past. It’s important to plan for the future but still be present on what you are engaging with right now, knowing that it is moving you in the direction of where you want to be.

The key in my experience to being present is to become aware of when I am not present. Also engaging in activities that I enjoy has also helped me to become more present.

Let go of expectations

If we have expectations of people, jobs, places etc. to be a certain way for us to be happy then we are allowing our happiness to be dependent on something outside of ourselves. We are attached to something for our happiness.

I can see in my own life that at times I allowed my happiness to be determined by how successful I was in my job, if I had great relationship with somebody I love etc. Sometimes when I was not successful in these areas, I experienced unhappiness.

What I have found helpful was to go for what I want, do the best I can and let go of the expectation for the result to be a certain way. I am in India at the moment and before I came I decided to let go of any expectations of India to be a certain way. I have found this approach very useful in having a happier experience here.

Be true to yourself

A quote I heard a while ago is;

” To be yourself in a world that is trying night and day to make you like everybody else, is probably the greatest battle there is to fight”

At times it can be hard for us to be ourselves and we need great courage and strength to be true to ourselves.

In my experience when I wasn’t true to myself, I have found that I experienced unhappiness in myself. In my last job I felt that I wasn’t been true to myself and that I was compromising my happiness because of a wage check at the end of the week.

As I mentioned earlier I am currently in India. It has been a long time dream of mine to travel India and embrace the culture here. I really do feel that I am being true to myself while I am traveling India at the moment.

To be true to yourself, live life based on your own approval and acceptance. Learn to listen and trust your heart and just go for what you want. Ask yourself what makes my heart sing?

Be Grateful

When we are in the mode of blaming and complaining we are not in a place of gratitude. We are essentially focusing on the negative and usually creating more of that in our lives.

Having being in India for a little under a week, I see people who could have a real reason to complain. There is a significant amount people who are actually sleeping on the streets here, sometimes it can be whole families. Other times I have seen people who have no legs or arms and are homeless on the street here as well. India is teaching me that I have so much to be grateful for.

Being grateful for where we are right now is definately a key to happiness. We have so much to be grateful for such as our health, our job, our house, our family, our friends etc. Being grateful is not just about saying it but it is about really feeling and believing it.

Well as always I would love to hear any feedback, comments or words of
wisdom you may have…



Do You Have The Courage To Forgive?


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The Truth Warrior

I think many of us already know of the power of forgiveness however how many of us really practice it in our daily lives? Many times we choose to hang on to the hurt, the anger, the guilt and the pain rather than let it go and forgive the person who has wronged us. I know that it can be easier said than done however when we choose to forgive, we are doing it for ourselves.

If for example somebody wrongs us in some way and we choose to hold anger and hatred towards that person, we are really the ones who are suffering and hurting in the situation. This anger and resentment that we feel has been known to turn into disease in certain people’s lives. I know in my experience that when I had anger towards a person, I thought in my own head that I was hurting that person by feeling this way. The reality was that I was only hurting myself.

In my own experience the person I have found hardest to forgive has been myself. I can see in my life that when I failed in certain areas in my life such as relationships, jobs etc. that I was angry with myself for not succeeding and I found it hard to show myself forgiveness and compassion. I can see in hindsight that by treating myself this way, I was doing myself no favours in moving on and letting go.

Often times we don’t choose to forgive the person or people because we believe in some way that we are justified. We believe that we are right to feel this anger or hatred towards this person or people because of what they have done. Usually we are coming from the ego and we don’t fully see the truth of the situation we are in. We may say ” how dare that this person do this to me” or “they have no right to treat me this way” . When we choose not to forgive somebody, usually it is because it is serving us in someway to stay in this place of non-forgiveness.

When we learn or choose to forgive somebody or some people, we are ultimately choosing to let go of what the person has said and done and choosing not to allow your peace and happiness be affected. It is very easy to love somebody when they are nice to us or treat us well however it takes a more evolved person to choose to have compassion and love for somebody when they are not this way. As a result of practicing forgiveness, we will have more love and compassion for ourselves and those around us. We will have greater peace of mind and happiness also.

Here are a few ways in how we can forgive somebody…

* Write out 100 times “I fully and freely forgive “name of the person” for “whatever wrong they did to you” and then for the following 6 days write out 100 times “I fully and freely forgive (name of the person) “

* How is it serving me to feel this anger, hatred or resentment towards this person?

* What is stopping me from choosing peace and happiness now?

* If I had a choice in this situation, would I prefer to be right or be happy?

* What would love do now?

* Write a letter to the person who hurt you outlining to them what they did and that you are now choosing to forgive them for what they did. (Don’t post or email the letter)

As always I would love to hear your words of wisdom, feedback or any comments you may have…



The Art Of Being In A Career You Love


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Most of us spend 40 hours a week and over 40 years or more in our jobs. The sad fact is that many people are in jobs which they have no real enthusiasm or excitement for. They are buying their time and they don’t feel connected to what they do. In many cases they are doing the job for the sake of paying the bills. A lot of time people end up in jobs or careers that they don’t really like because they fell into them or were told by their teachers, family or society that this would be a good job or career to do.

I know when I was growing up and considering what to do with my life in regards to my career, there was very little guidance and useful help in this area. At times I found I was at a lost at what to do and ended up in a career which I didn’t find fulfilling or rewarding. It served a purpose in that from the outside that I looked like I was a productive member of society however inside I was feeling empty and meaningless. I lacked passion and excitement for what I was doing.

In considering a career which may be of interest to you, it is important to look at your values and if they are congruent to the career you wish to pursue. Your values are the things in your life which you place a high value on and which are important to you. They could be freedom, money, creativity, relationships, travel, status, security, family, work-life balance, teamwork, fun etc. If for example your 5 top values are work-life balance, family, fun, freedom and teamwork then if you are in a job/career which you have to work very long hours and is very stressful and which doesn’t allow you much time or freedom for family and other things in your life, then there is a high possibility that you will not be very happy.

It also important to be engaged in a career area which you are interested and are passionate about. If the career that you choose engages in a few or more of your interests, you will be happier in it. Your interests could range from yoga, music, sport, marketing, personal development, travel, animals, organic farming, cooking, dancing, writing etc. If you are in a career area which you are not passionate about, make a list of the areas that you are interested in and brainstorm possible career options that you could choose or create in this area. For example if you have an interest in writing, music and travel you could become a music journalist/reporter and travel and interview musicians.

Another aspect in choosing a career which best suits you is your personality. What kind of personality do you have? Are you extroverted or introverted? Do you predominantly like to use your feelings or your mind in making decisions? Do you like to use your senses or your intuition? Are you action or thought orientated? If for example you are a person who is introverted and doesn’t enjoy lots of interaction with people then there is a strong possibility that you would not be very suitable to a sales job.

The skills that you are good at and that you enjoy using are usually strong indicators of the area that you would be suited in working as well. They can range from organizing, planning, sales, presenting, writing, management, coaching, training, marketing, sales etc.

When choosing a career ask yourself the following questions;

* What are my top 5 values?

* What are my interests?

* What kind of personality do I have?

* What skills do I enjoy using and that I am good at?

* When you know the answers to these questions, then brainstorm possible careers that may be suitable with these values, interests, personality and skills….think outside the box :)

* Highlight the 3 careers which you would be most interested in pursuing and research them in regards to qualifications needed, what it is like to work in it by talking to people in that career, salary, opportunities etc…

* Then choose the career you would like to pursue :)

I hope this was useful…

If you have any feedback, words of wisdom or comments, I would love to hear them….



The Key To A Loving Relationship


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Love Water Beach

Most people, myself included, want to create a loving and fulfilling relationship in our lives. A relationship that is healthy, authentic, with mutual love and respect for each other. A loving healthy relationship can be one of the most beautiful experiences in the world. I have had the wonderful experience of being in love on four different occasions. I feel blessed to have experienced this.

I am currently single and I was reflecting the other day on what is the best way to attract another loving relationship into my life. The answer that I came up with was, to have a loving and authentic relationship with myself. I feel that is so true. It is impossible to have a loving honest relationship with somebody else unless we first choose to have one with ourselves. This really is the first step in creating that loving relationship in our lives.

We have been conditioned by society, by the media, by movies etc. that somebody out there will make us feel happy, feel loved and feel special. However the truth is that the only person who can give us any of those things is ourselves.

I see in my relationship experience, what has blocked me from really loving a person has always come back to how much I love myself. When we choose to fully love ourselves and we have a healthy and honest relationship with ourselves, we can then choose to let go of the need and the expectations of the person we are in relationship with.

It has been my experience, that when there are needs and expectations in the relationship from either person, that it seems to block  or restrict the flow of love. Imagine being in a relationship where you have no needs or expectations of the other person.

~ I love you but I don’t need you in my life to be happy or to feel loved.~  what a beautiful place to be.

I see in many relationships and my own too, where the happiness of the other person becomes dependant on the other person. A cycle of blame kicks in where by one person blames the other person for their unhappiness saying “ you don’t do this” and “you don’t do that for me.”

If we really loved ourselves, would we choose to blame the other person for our unhappiness?

So how do we start loving ourselves?

We start with ~

~ Just being gentle and kind to ourselves for where we are right now.

~ Treat ourselves how we would treat a lover.

~ Taking ourselves out for a date and make ourselves feel special and wonderful.

~ Saying No and saying Yes, when it feels true for us to do so.

~ Trusting the voice within.

~ Not comparing ourselves to anybody or anything.

~ Saying yes to who you are and all that you can be.

~ Just being good to ourselves.

~ Trusting ourselves and letting go of all expectations and need.

~ Saying to ourselves that we really are doing our best.

~ Saying its okay to be me.

~ Embracing, accepting and loving the beautiful, fantastic person that you are!!! :)

Well till the next time….

As always I welcome any feedback or comments you may have.


~ TW

How To Be A Victor And Not A Victim !


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We all have experienced negative things happening in our lives. These can range from things such as losing our job, getting an illness of some kind, losing somebody close to us to not having the right education or upbringing. It fascinates me how some people choose to react in different ways to the same circumstance.

When we choose to be a victim when something happens to us in our lives, we are essentially giving our power away. We are coming from a place of feeling powerlessness and having no control in the situation we are in. We can go into stories of poor me, I am so helpless and why does this always happen to me. We can go into a place of blaming or complaining about our childhood or our circumstances for our lot in life.

There can be many reasons why we choose to be a victim. It could be that we don’t want to take responsibility for our lives, or maybe that we get sympathy and attention from people by being a victim. It could also be because we have a fear of failure and are afraid to take proactive action in our lives. Ultimately we are the only ones who really know why we are choosing to be a victim and how it is serving us in some way.

There can be many drawbacks in choosing to be a victim in your life. When we choose to be a victim, life can pass us by because we stay in the victim or the poor me mode and we don’t take proactive action in our situation. We also can have the tendency to attract negative people, circumstances and situations to us because of how we are feeling. Being a victim may seem ok in the short term however in the long term it usually means that we create more negative situations. I can see in my life that there have been times I have played the role of being a victim. I remember one time when I was looking for work and I was blaming and complaining about the economy and the fact that there were no jobs out there. In hindsight I can see that I needed to take control and take responsibility for the situation and stop complaining and blaming.

When we choose to be a victor, we feel empowered in the situation that we are in. We refuse to let the situation get the better of us. When something happens outside of us which we do not like, we do not blame anybody but we take full responsibility for the situation that we are in. We have a positive attitude about our life and we tend to be generally positive in response to things that happen to us. We feel in control and a certainty that everything will be ok no matter what happens. When we are a victor we start taking proactive action in our lives and we feel good about ourselves. We ultimately say YES to life. I know of a guy who lost his legs in a car accident and as a result losted his job. He turned his situation around and started writing for a living and is now a successful writer.

Here are a few tips in how we can choose to be a victor in our lives ;

* Start looking for the good in the situation you are in….ask what are the blessings in my life right now?

* Who is in a worse situation than me right now?

* Start taking positive proactive action towards what you want!

* Say to yourself – I am stronger than this and I am bigger than this!!

* Become aware of your situation and say I have a choice in how I want to respond !

* If you are feeling like a victim, ask yourself how is it serving me to be like this?

* What can I do to take my power back in my current situation?

* Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start focusing on how you can make the most of the situation you are in right now!

As always I would love to hear any feedback, words of inspiration or wisdom you may have.



The Power Of Speaking Authentically!


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The Truth Warrior

It seems easy to say yes to what we want and no to what we don’t
want but how many of us actually do it in our lives? I see in my
life that at times I have been conditioned to say yes when I mean no and to say no when I mean yes.

We could be in a relationship that we don’t like, or a job that we
hate or living in an environment that doesn’t serve us. We can get caught up
in the cycle of focusing on what we don’t want and not consciously and
positively focusing and moving towards what we do want. We can get
trapped in this place and our lives can pass us by.

You usually know if what is happening in your life is what you want by
the way you feel. You feel good and positive in yourself. You have a
feeling of joy and aliveness within yourself in that you know that
this is something that you really want. When you don’t want something,
the opposite is true and you feel lack of enthusiasm, lack of
excitement and low energy.

Often times we don’t say yes to what we want because of our fear of
being disapproved by the people or society around us. We seem to have
linked the need for approval, acceptance and praise of other people of
being of higher importance than us actually saying yes to what we want. I
know of a guy who pursued a medical profession which he hated so that
he could gain the approval and acceptance from those around him,
especially his parents. He still chooses to continue in this
profession even though his heart isn’t in it. Our own feelings that we
don’t deserve and that we are not good enough to go for what we want
can also play a strong role in preventing us from going for what we

Probably one of the more challenging areas I have found to say yes to
what I want and to be true to myself is in the area of personal
relationships, especially romantic ones. At times when we get involved
with somebody in a romantic way, games such as trying to please the
other person and seeking their approval can get in the way of us
having an authentic and loving connection with that person. They can
also get in the way of us saying yes to what we want in the
relationship and in life in general.

When we choose to say Yes to what we want and No to what we
don’t want, we will;

* Start loving and accepting ourselves more.

* Be happier and more peaceful in ourselves.

* Be more authentic and excited by life because we are doing what we want.

* Have higher self-esteem and confidence in ourselves.

* Have fun in life.

* Be living our lives based on our own approval, acceptance and praise.

Here are a few questions to invite you to say YES to what you do want
and say NO to what you don’t want…

* Check in and ask yourself does this feel true for me? Is this what
I really want?

* Am I saying yes or no to gain approval, acceptance and praise with
this person or these people?

* How is it serving me to say no when I mean yes and yes when I mean no?

* If I truly loved myself, would I say No or Yes to this situation or person?

* What could happen in my life if I started to say yes and no when I
meant it?

As always I welcome any feedback, comments or words of wisdom you may have…



Control Your Emotions And Fulfill Your Potential!


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The Truth WarriorOur emotions can range from anger, fear, depression, jealousy, guilt
to joy, peace, happiness and love. The emotions that we are
experiencing can make our lives a living hell or a living heaven.

Often times we can forget that the anger or depression we are
experiencing is not outside ourselves. We can buy into the illusion
that a person or a thing or a place is making us angry. We say to a
person that you are making me feel a certain way. The truth is the
anger, the fear, the guilt, the happiness and the love is coming from
within ourselves. Nobody can make us feel a certain way unless we
give them the permission or allow them to do so.

When we experience these negative emotions, often times they can
prevent us from really seeing the true picture of our reality. They
can cloud our judgement and can make us prisoners in our own lives.

Our emotions come from the beliefs we are believing about the
situation, place or thing. For example in my life now I am
experiencing a lot of changes in regards to my career and environment.
If I choose to believe that change is scary or bad, there is a high
probability that I will experience the emotions of fear, unhappiness
etc. However if I choose to believe that change is good and that I
love change, there is a high possibility that I will experience
emotions of peace, joy and happiness.

Our emotions can hold us back and limit us from living the life we
truly desire or they can propel and move us forward in the direction
of what we really want to create in our lives. When we are
experiencing fear and unhappiness in our lives, we are usually less
motivated and inspired to take proactive action. We feel that we have
little enthusiasm, excitement and energy for the actions we need to
take. However when we are in a place of happiness and peace, we are
usually motivated, enthusiastic and energized to take proactive action
towards what we want.

At times it can be easier said than done to change our so-called
negative emotions to positive ones. I know in my experience there
have been times where the negative emotions I was experiencing were so
overwhelming, that I found it hard to move through them and see the
light. Many of us can have the experience of being in a place that is
emotionally challenging and find it hard to move to a more positive

Here are a few guidelines that I have found helpful to shift to a more
emotionally positive place;

* Become aware of the emotions that you are experiencing.

* Don’t label or judge the emotions by saying that they are good or
bad, right or wrong.

* What am I believing now that is creating these emotions?

* How is it serving me to believe this?

* Would I prefer to be right or be happy?

* What is the truth in what I am believing?

* What could I believe about my current situation that would make me
feel happier and more grateful?

* Say to yourself I am not these emotions.

* Trust and believe that these emotions will pass.

As always I welcome any feedback, comments or words of wisdom that
you may like to share…




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